Letter to Our Future Child

May 31, 2025

Dear Future Child,

Even though you are currently an embryo in a Los Angeles cryogenic freezer, to us you are already a star.

Your other dad and I have been working and waiting for years to meet you.  I truly believe that all good things take time, so we are trying not to rush this.  

We don’t want to rush you.  Now or ever.  In fact, we were talking this week about some of the ways we want to try and ‘parent.’  One of those includes letting you be you.  We want you to be strong, independent, and to know who you are, where you came from, and what you want.  We believe that starts with you understanding how we brought you into this world.

In a way, all the writing I do for BabyMoon Family is a letter to you.  It’s a way of letting you look back on our lives before you, and everything around how you came to be.

Tomorrow we are looking at furniture for your room.  I know we are a bit early with this, but we like to be prepared.  Also, the idea of redesigning our home and your room is so exciting.  This is not just because we are two gays who watch too many interior design shows.  Rather, it gives us the space to imagine our lives with you.  It helps us through the waiting, delays, and challenges, as it makes us focus on what really matters.  You.

I think when everyone is becoming a parent, they take time to reflect on their own parents.  I never knew if my mom really wanted to be a mother.  She said she did, but our estrangement said otherwise.  She is now gone, and I will never really know the truth from her.  Even before you are here, I want you to know this:  I want to be a parent, and we want to be parents.  No matter what we go through in our lives together, I want you to know that and never question it.

While you keep chillin’ (sorry, practicing my dad jokes), we will have fun pretending we are interior design masters when we all know we are just going to upcycle furniture from IKEA.

Love,

Your Dad